Reunion rejuvenates and gives energy and satisfaction

Meeting old friends and relatives rejuvenates and satisfy people which drags them out of the routine life syndrome and even heavy depression. Family reunion and school reunion both are equally important as they took us back to our happy and carefree days and provide us a shelter of relations and belongingness and drag us automatically from many psychological problems including depression. We get the opportunity to relive our young age which give us power and courage to take the world on our stride.

Ashok Saxena , former head of Psychology department, DDU Gorakhpur university, says, “ Today most of the people suffer identity crisis as they migrate to other places for job and career and also face a sense of insecurity which fills them with huge amount of stress. Family reunion takes them to their roots and resolve identity crisis and feeling of insecurity because we identify ourselves with our group, culture, tradition and ideas. A feel of belongingness comes with family reunions which takes away all the insecurity.”

On the same lines, Ravi Tiwari, 40, finds reunion as medicine for him, “I left my village years before for my studies and job but I carve for my village and my relatives and childhood friends. It is very difficult to go back to village frequently but my family members decided to meet at least twice in a year and we arrange reunion at any place which is comfortable for all. Reunion gives me energy and satisfaction. We talk in Bhojpuri dialect and eat the same arhar dal and Baigan ka bhurta. Ladies make food and we help them. We try to wear traditional dress like kurta pyjama, dhoti kurta and women war either salwar suits or saree. We do it to create an environment in which we spent our childhood. We also play gulli danda, lattu, carom, cricket and antakshari”

Naghma Jawed, professor of psychology and principal of a degree college, feels school reunion as great stress busters, she says, “When we meet old friends in the school campus where we grew from a child into teenage, we automatically move to the same era and forget present day worries and fly like young butterfly. In psychology it is known as escape mechanism which is very effective in dealing with stress. In family reunion we hesitate to share all our problems but with old friend we share problems without fear. Once we talk about our problems, 80% of the problem gets resolved. The other thing we get insecure of aging and aging related problems but when we meet people of our age we feel comfortable. We leave inhibitions and act like a teenage which connects us to ourselves as most of the time play role of professional and family roles and forget ourselves. During school reunion we get self esteem praises of friends and positive atmosphere. Meeting old teachers reminds us that someone is there to protect us to guide us and to pamper us as a child. We mend our broken and forgotten relations and feel fresh and secure. Reunions work like safety valve of pressure cooker which takes out excess pressure of life and makes us ready to rock the world.”

Sangita Rani Jaiswal who recently went to her silver jubilee school reunion, says, “ I danced, I jumped , I sang and I read a poem written by me in front of my friends and I behaved like a crazy teenage girl in my school reunion. I can say that it all satisfied me as a human being and pampered me. I’m feeling happy and my ideas have turned into very positive ideas and my style of looking at problems has changed. I don’t know how I got so much energy; I think its love of my childhood friends. I relived my childhood and teenage.”

On the same lines, Poonam Jaiswal, says,” When I got invitation of school union I became excitedbut decided not to attend as my husband was not well but my hubby asked me to attend the reunion and when I returned and told him the tales of my friends and my school ,he laughed and became very happy and within week he became healthy too.”